The Peace Manifesto
Despite man's incredible advances in science and technology, “peace” has still managed to elude us. Getting my Master’s in Dispute Resolution changed my life by both reminding me of the conflict resolution practices of my Igbo culture and opening me up to a field that contained frameworks that can inspire peace, especially if adopted by more people in society. The issue is, the dispute resolution process as it is practiced currently is an offshoot of the court based legal system. Public policy was implemented to reduce the burden on the already overburdened courts as a form of alternative dispute resolution. In my opinion, a large reason for the growing amount of conflict and division is a lack of common knowledge on how to manage conflict. Conflict in our society today is handled on two opposite extremes of the spectrum, either violence or harsh legal action on one end or passive aggressiveness and outright avoidance on the other end. Our world has never been so connected and conflicted. If violence, litigation or simply ignoring the existence of anything you disagree with can take root as acceptable culture, I am determined to promote a counterculture making the practice of peace just as commonplace. I’m on a mission to develop a culture of peace. I believe, instead of the, so far unsuccessful top down government or institution led approaches to peace we’re used to, peace is treated as a learned skill, to be developed and practiced daily. Maybe the peace the world so desperately needs would be much better achieved if conflict resolution skills, peace inspiring skills and solutions, are put in the hands of people that confront conflict daily.
THE PEACE FORMULA
My approach to conflict coaching is to break down the mediation process and make it more accessible for people who need it for everyday issues. Clients can decide to either do a quick check in with me, if they are familiar with conflict resolution skills and need feedback on if they are applying it correctly. Or use an hour developing a plan of action and possible responses in real time that they would take to implant in the situation. for ongoing persistent problems. I fuse the Igbo cultural conflict resolution idea of peace as a ritual, as a repeated practice, with current theories of deconstructing conflict.
What I do
As a conflict coach, I isolate a part of the mediation session called caucusing and I consult you solely on the conflict you bring to me. Whilst in a mediation I would bounce back between the 2 sides involved, reframing and communicating each side’s grievances, in a consulting coaching session I would be working with you to develop strategies for you to try out on your own, as your own mediator in your conflict. If the conflict persists and the other party agrees to a mediation I also offer those services, with the understanding that it requires equal buy in to keep things fair and the caveat that, just because we have worked together individually does not guarantee the mediation will go in your favor as the goal is always to remain neutral, fair, just and honest.